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Originally Posted by hankster
many of us are reluctant to have a r/s w/T because it's not "real", it can't continue, blah blah blah. yet we let the dentist drill a hole in our bad tooth because we trust him to repair it before we leave. We don't just talk about the tooth. Those repeated repairs - experiencing actual pain or even just awkwardness in your dealing with T, TELLING THEM WHERE IT HURTS (it's scaring me just to write that!), and then letting them help you, even if they don't do it perfectly at first, or ever! really, just letting them in, and not feeling like YOU have to handle it on your own because no one else cares and no one else is coming to help. I guess to the point where your baseline attitude finally becomes I belong with people, rather than I have to be alone because people just hurt you.
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The bit i dont understand is this. She tells me to "let her in" yet I have told her all about myself for the last 4 months. She knows everything about me and my mental illness. So how is this not "letting her in"??? I don't go around telling people on the street about my mental illness - just her. She is the only one.
How can I explain to her that she is already "IN" and theres nothing else she doesn't know? I think she believes that there is more I'm hiding and doesn't believe me when I tell her im an open book in therapy. Just because there isn't much to me doesn't mean that I'm hiding things.
Sounds like we already have an appropriate relationship and she just doesn't see it.