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Originally Posted by RapidFlyer
I had lots of people inside that didn't have a clue what food, clothes, music, or other things in the "outside world " were. They were not there for those purposes.
They were there for internal safety mechanisms that were critical to my well being and were not supposed to know those things. Other people inside took care of those things for them if needed and covered for their lack of knowledge.
For whatever reason your alter didn't know and that is perfectly okay.
One of the best tools I learned in therapy was to let each person know that it was okay to for them to know whatever it was that they knew, and to tell them I was proud of whatever they did. (whether or not I knew what their job was) I knew enough to know they helped to keep me alive and that was enough.
I hope this helps.
Tell the sad one I am sending hugs if they are acceptable.
if not then whatever good thing is.
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yes I had a few alters that were time/date/ era / or other fixed where they were stuck in the time frame of their age, or purpose/job and could not understand things were different now.
examples
a 2 yr old alter whos job and purpose was to cry. and only cry. she could not be any other way
a 16 yr old who smoked, partied and looked for guys and thats all her job purpose was.
A 13 yr old alter who despite my living in the city was living in the country mentally. she could not learn to lock the doors because in the mountains we never had locks on the doors, could not understand we didnt have a garden to weed because we were in the city. to her the city wasnt her home, and wasnt in her memories.
Alters are created for a purpose or to do a job that the host cannot handle at that moment.
that child alter of yours may not be able to understand anything beyond what she was created for because how she is, is what you needed when she was created.