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Originally Posted by KazzaX
The bit i dont understand is this. She tells me to "let her in" yet I have told her all about myself for the last 4 months. She knows everything about me and my mental illness. So how is this not "letting her in"??? I don't go around telling people on the street about my mental illness - just her. She is the only one.
How can I explain to her that she is already "IN" and theres nothing else she doesn't know? I think she believes that there is more I'm hiding and doesn't believe me when I tell her im an open book in therapy. Just because there isn't much to me doesn't mean that I'm hiding things.
Sounds like we already have an appropriate relationship and she just doesn't see it.
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Do you have emotions and feelings very often? Do you think about your feelings very much? Maybe you have feelings that you don't usually pay attention to. Maybe you don't even realize you have some of the feelings you have. If so, maybe she doesn't know you aren't aware of your feelings. Then she might think you're holding back your feelings.
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Originally Posted by KazzaX
I think you're right Skysblue. T is talking about attachment probably. I think she doesn't realise that I am attached to her - if i wasn't I wouldnt be going back there each week. I am attached to her in that she is my therapist and I am her client and we need to work together to achieve a goal. We have a therepeautic attachment going on here and have done the whole time.
Should i ask her why she doesn't see this attachment? Or is that a rude question? I am not sure... seems it might be a bit rude but is there some other way I could word it so that its not considered rude.
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I think it's a good idea to tell her that's what you think. I don't think you have to worry about being rude, but a polite way to say it could be to include phrases like "I'm confused"... because you said I'm not letting you in or "I'm confused" because you said we're not attached or "I think" we're attached becasue... or "It seemed to me" we're attached because [give your understanding of attachment].
I think it's good you feel attached to her. Maybe she doesn't know you feel attached. A lot of people would show feelings if they were attached. But some people think they are showing attachment just by showing up.