I think "letting someone in" is about emotions. I told T things about myself for the first 5 months without feeling any real emotions - certainly not toward him. And then ... transference started to kick in. I fought it, and eventually decided to stop fighting and give in. A while after that, I decided to let him in, meaning inside the wall I put up to keep myself safe from other people. I purposely made myself emotionally vulnerable to him (can you spell terrifying??? ) Oh crap, it's uncomfortable to even write this.... But I know this is the way to understanding and healing ... I can feel it starting to happen.

Like ... someone can tell you that a hot stove can burn you, and yes you understand, it's logical, it makes sense, but there's nothing like putting your hand on that stove and actually getting burned to really understand it. To experience it. Enough - sorry for rambling on. My opinion only