((((Claritytoo))))

Thank you for your post. I have one that is five and she did not know what an answering machine was because back then there were no answering machines. She dialed our therapist telephone number that was laying out by the phone and when the answering machine came on she started to talk to her but my t was not there but it was her voice on the answering machine. My five year old was scared, confused, and crying saying talk to me, talk to me, and my t saved it on her machine until I went in so I could hear it.

We did explain it to her that our t was not there at the time but that it was a machine that let our t know that she called. I am not sure she ever understood it as it happened over and over again. But we did try to explain it to her. It happened with my friends cell phone too because she just did not get it or understand how their voice would answer but not talk to her. I think trying to explain or show them is okay and could help them to begin to connect to the present.

Also I have some that carry our eating disorder that just cannot understand the importance of eating because they never did know eating was important. Even today they will often carry that on the same even though I do have co-consciousness with them. They can learn with time but sometimes it takes a long time.

So many of those within me still live back in that time and do not realize I have grown up. They do not know where we are and are scared to death. Some within I have given new jobs because what they did hurts us more today than helps us. It took a long time to get them to trust enough to change but it is possible. But each one of us are different and what may work for one person may not work for someone else.

Your question was good, thank you for asking. I am not sure if anything I have said helps but I hope it lets you know that you are not alone. Know we are listenig and care. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps