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Old Jan 03, 2012, 09:22 PM
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Originally Posted by jazzy123456 View Post
I want to tell my T that the fact that she said she cared about me; when I blantantly told her "no one cares about me..." really pisses me off. It's been like 4 weeks since she said it...but, I don't want to seem like an A hole. I have no idea why it makes me mad. It's like they stay stuff like that but, then one day they will not see you again....so maybe they care or something but, dont say that and let me go through the loss.
I understand exactly how you feel. I went through something similar with my therapist.

Because of my anger, I started the conversation via an email. That allowed me to get the point across, while editing out my anger. Unfortunately, of course, he wanted to talk about it in person, which I guess is their stock response. After that pretty intense session and several follow-up emails, I felt better

With that being said, I think for the most part they are human and probably do care, in the confines of their office, about us. But, for their own sanity, they really can't care.

They really do need to come up with some other stock phrase, though. Or, here's a thought: maybe, they can be truthful and when we say we have no one in our life who cares about us, they can either question it or say, "hey, you are right, now how can we make that OK or make a change to get someone in your life who does care." But that mamby, pamby "I care" isn't true and because it isn't true, it comes off as insincerity, which we pick up on.
Thanks for this!
jazzy123456