Jazzy, I understand about feeling uncomfortable about going back to something a t said a long time ago that hurt you, and worrying about being a jerk for doing. I just did it anyway, only with me it was something my t said from like 2 years ago. I think it's a good thing to do anyway. I can't say it totally left me feeling better, but a little better, and at least that secret isn't there anymore. It sounds like Echoes has a good point.