(((hugs))) Fleeing fox... I'm sorry you felt dismissed and minimized. Actually, anytime someone expresses concern, imo it IS given consideration. The reason there was that thread at all is because the issue was being address, imo. Many members are always onguard here, and while the system "worked" it could have moved a bit faster, is all, imo, thus possibly preventing some heartache.

It isn't the site that KEEPS us safe, imo, but each other. Some of us are so quick to defend a new found "friend" here, that we fail to see some of the red flags. If others send us a PM asking us to be safe with a certain member...until that member is "proven" so to speak, of if we see another member or two post questions to that new member...and no response, no real response (not necessarily "the" answer to the question) is given, we need to be able to step back a second, also.

IMO those who are mentally unwell are that way because the normal systems of mental health self-care are disordered somehow. (I know with PTSD, the alerts are set TOO HIGH, for others maybe they are set TOO LOW.) If we work to keep each other safe, and accept caution flags as good advice and not derogatory digs, we'll all be safer here. IMO, It's ok to not be able to share, or not want to, but that's far different than not understanding the fragile nature of the minds of some mentally unwell members - or deliberately taking advantage of them.

Fleeing, you can PM me anytime you feel unsafe, or sense something askew...even though I'm NOT a moderator nor admin here, safety is something I always take seriously. TC... it's good to have you helping us watch.