It's defintiley "frightening" and "Startling" and Snakebit---oh dear, am I the girl who is highly sensitive-- highly sensitive personality--that picks up easy on subletities in my enviornment--- thats my problem, I pick up on too much with people. and T. and I know what happened with my old T--learning, which is why I don't want it to happen again... nothing all that bad actually happened, I just made more of the therapeutic relationship then I should have-- because, mentally, I was already overwhelmed by so many other life rough patches I just fell into the attachment easily. Now, I am not in that ''helpless'' state of mind and rather not have someone who is a professional "care" about me because... idk why. I would just rather them help me grow as a person but, to me, that doesn't mean they have to deeply care or anything-- i offer advice to people all the time and some people I deeply care about and others-- I barely know but, I'm still able to help them and they are still able to receive good things from our encounter. I think the same can happen in therapy. I can grow and change without necessarily being "cared" for, in the sense, that it would confuse what the therapists role in my life is alll about... I hope that made sense? I usually edit my words but, I'm just posting.! thx peeps.