You cannot notice what another person will notice about you and what they prefer is their own preferences, not based on you! I'm a brunette and once my husband mentioned he would have liked a blonde But he actually loves and desires "Me", not a hair coloring and my body is large, saggy :-) covered in scars, bruises, varicose veins, etc.

Get to know yourself and your body; thank your body for being there for you to help you with your stresses, accepting the cutting and scarring and not getting infected but healing itself for you. If you had a loved one who was scarred by an accident, burned in a fire, etc. you would not love them any less because they were scarred -- be that loved one for yourself.