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Wow, this girl and her sister have some baggage that displays that they come from a very disfunctional family. This girl must have been the controling manipulative entity in her home, carries some deep anger issues as well. It is wise that AJ is getting help, but he truely needs to see and understand what real issues this perspective mate is carrying, otherwise he is going to be put through a painful troubling future and sorry to say, you will be watching in concern. I can't blame you for being troubled with this, your boundaries are being threatened constantly and this girl definitely wants control of everyone in her path and now she has a new weapon, that child inside her.

If AJ can work it to get her into therapy with him, perhaps he will get to learn about her issues and he will have to make choices based on that. I just feel sorry for this new life that is going to be born into an atmosphere of a confused controling mother.

I am truely sorry that your being disturbed by what you see, I can't blame you for being frustrated and concerned. You cannot do anything other than maintain your own boundaries as you are, and you truely are being tested. What you can do is keep supporting AJ in seeking help as he is as this will give him the professional guidance he will need to understand what he is truely dealing with. If he can get this girlfriend into therapy with him, that would be great, it would be so helpful to him. I think that this girlfriend is disordered and he should know the reality of her.

You don't have to tell him that though, just keep supporting therapy, and you can present a give that this girl desires by your support in the therapy. Let her think it is her idea and it will give HER what she wants, more control.

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