Sorry this is long. My youngest (10yrs) has this school friend. This friend started a new school this year. It started out she offered to take my daughter with her and a couple other girls to the movies through out the years. She then would ask for a play date at my house, but it was really babysitting because she would bring her a 8:15 in the morning. It was always on our day off and we don't like to wake early on those days.

Since she moved to the other school I figured it wouldn't be happening. Here in Canada we have PA days ever couple months and its a day off school - she called me a month and a half ago and I said no. Sometimes I tell a white lie to spare her feelings. She called twice in a row the other day when me and the girls were still sleeping. As I was getting breakfast, my husband calls me from work and he said she called him, to ask him to get hold of me - she wanted to plan a movie date. I felt this was so pushy.

I asked my daughter if she wanted to go and she doesn't. We're all bushed from the holidays and 2 birthdays. She also senses the pushy nature. She then called our home and my oldest answered - the mom wanted me to call her. I was so bothered that I couldn't call her back - I chickened out. Later that evening which was yesterday, her daughter called my youngest and my daughter made it clear we were busy and not available at all.

Today the mom called again! My oldest has more courage than me and told her we're not available and when we have done the babysitting in the past, we find the early hour hard on our day off. She also told her, my youngest made this clear yesterday. I know when she invites my daughter for the movies, it means I have to repay the favor by babysitting all day. I don't like it and I'm frustrated at myself for not being able to voice how I feel. A normal person would get the hint that we don't want to babysit. I've never asked any mom to babysit or invite her to someone elses house. She also brings her with no breakfast. Last time I gave her a choice of cereal, eggs or a waffle and she said pancake...so I had to mix home made pancakes. She's not like a normal person and doesn't get the regular hints.