Needing/wanting things repeated is not dumb. It is a way in which we learn. Particularly since (and I think you are like me on this - I hope that does not offend you) people who are very rational have a hard time making sense of emotion because it is so illogical. It does not fit into the ways I have to make sense out of things. So anything having to do with emotion needs to be repeated (and sometimes put in different forms) for me to come close to knowing what is going on.