Btw I will preface this saying that I invest a lot in my friendships and we have been friends for 13 years... this is a friend that no matter what she needs I try to be there for her and she says I am the "best" friend she has. I really want to maintain this friendship but don't know how to strike a balance btween being nice and speaking up.

I am really having a problem with how my friend treated me and at the same time I feel GUILTY. I have similar problems with a lot of people usually based on me overextending myself and then feeling mad other people don't do the same for me.

Lately my friend has had a lot of success in work and poor experiences in dating. Me and my boyfriend spent a lot of time with her this week consoling her for a bad date that she had with a dude she was obsessed with.

She kept saying, "I'm pretty and I go to X school why doesn't he like me!" And my and my boyfriend supported her.

Meanwhile I am really hurting b/c I have decided not to apply to X school and to follow a less traditionally success-driven path for my PhD in a field more suited to my interests, and my friend keeps saying I am "letting myself down" and that "friends don't let friends take the easy route." She is way into titles and this is a quality we have shared until recently. I am really worried she is going to reject my friendship over this. She has also told me my boyfriend sure is cute, handsome and nice but "am I sure he will provide a good life for me." I was really hurt, and am not really sure where my own boundaries lie in that respect.

I was really upset especially today because we were supposed to have dinner before she leaves to go back home but she rescheduled it 2x over the past 2 days.... she has been awol... and then I find out on FB that she and a different guy that I have been encouraging her to date went to a movie with some of our friends and that's why she cancelled. And we had talked about going to see that movie!!!!

I feel so so hurt right now and don't know how to manage this. I was supposed to go over to her rental appartment and pick up the clothes she borrowed from me for New Years but I just called her and said "keep them" because I don't even want to see her before she goes. And she said, "is everything ok?"

Help me get a grip, PC!!! I don't want to be anyone's emo friend but I feel very sad right now, like my friend is rejecting me for my choice of boyfriend and job. How can I stop these thoughts?