Thank you guys so much for your feedback. According to the phone records...he's not still talking to her (on his cell phone anyway). However, they work at the same place, so it would be foolish of me to believe anything he says 100%. With a 3 year old son and another boy on the way it IS difficult to leave. However, I know I cannot control him and I made it known that if ANYTHING happens again I'm gone 100%. I deserve better. My kids deserve better. It's just been a rollercoaster I'm not going to lie and say our marriage was perfect, because it wasn't. We would bicker sometimes, but nothing to the point of which I'd ever think he'd actually cheat.
The one good side to this story is I was able to get a little revenge on the woman who KNEW ABOUT ME... I saved the nasty disgusting pictures she sent to my husband and sent them to her boyfriend (yes, she had a boyfriend at the time as well). What a SKANK lol Karma is a ******
I really appreciate all your feedback, it really has helped me a lot. After 10 years, a son and a bun in the oven, I can't even begin to tell you guys how hard it is to walk away. But I'm not financially dependent on him and I'm working on emotion ally disconnecting from him as well. Not completely, but he's shown me that I can't trust him...at least not for a while. Dr. Phil said it's a "defense mechanism" to emotionally disconnect. I'm finding that it's helping, and knowing that I can't control him, only myself is helping a lot too. I'm realizing I don't need him as much as I thought I did. It's still very hard, only time will tell what happens.