Hi - I used to self harm but stopped when I was in my early 20's. It started again after I started seeing my T.

I would agree wtih you, that the significant thing is how you are using this as a coping stragegy to deal with feelings. In my opinion the only thing that may differ is the amount of actual physical damage caused (at the moment, it can escalate).

My T knows I SI - he has never seen it and we rarely talk about it - the only time we do is if he is checking how I am doing emotionally - a sort of gauge to how well I am coping with difficult stuff.

I know it is scarey to be open with T about many things and there is often shame connected to SI, but I would agree with you to share if you can - the more our T's know the better able they are to help us.

Let us know how it goes with your new T - Soup