suzzie imo the only way to avoid being hit is to leave. abusers do not change their spots. i hope you will consider this. i stayed in an abusive marriage for 13 years. it doesn't get better. it only escalates over time. i almost lost my life. i didn't really believe what i was told by my T until the night of terror. stay safe. thinking of you. 
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle.
The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand
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