"I don't know why you're here" sounds to me like your T doesn't feel heard by you, IME. My previous t/pdoc would say to me, "I think you come here just because you like to talk to me." I was just blowing off steam, stressing about my job - I felt the dynamics there paralleled my family dynamics in some way, but I wasn't working through squat. I was just a hyper complaing mess.

What CHANGED things for me was cutting off contact with my family of origin. I was two years into seeing current T before I was able to make that happen, and it changed me, and changed my therapy. Not to be elitist, but it really doesn't seem right that parents would treat such smart little girls as we were the way they did, and given that they did, we should have been able to huckleberry finn our way out of it. But really, if any other parents had had US for their little girls, bringing home such report cards, would we have been ignored like that? Maybe that's why we're shouting now. Honestly, I don't think our t's CAN get it, because they can't imagine, can't believe we would not have been the favored one in the family.

if worse comes to worst, print off this thread - I think you've done some good work here, honestly answering people's questions, expressing your fears, etc. I think there's a lot to work with. You really put it out there. YOU rock!