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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
((( athena ))) no it's not just you.
There was so much in your first post here that spoke to me, but I have picked out just the thing above
I fear the therapist who doesn't ever, ever, ever, ever take it personally. I know they strive not to, and I know why, but it seems perfectly reasonable for the client to feel, hey, buddy, have an argument with me, or at least a discussion; I just accused you, just insulted you here, can't you respond like a human being?
This whole oh-so-distanced thing is rankling me this week. sorry, maybe I shouldn't be saying anything, probably the wrong frame of mind entirely.
anyway  to you. Try to keep in mind that "normal people" are usually far from normal, they're just in denial!!! I'm sure of it!!! I see a lot more sanity - patience, courage, compassion - here on PC than I find in most corners of the "real world".  |
Thank you Sitting. Yes, I want my T to take it personally in the moment and show some kind of reaction. I often say to him, "Tell me something to show me you are human". He's starting to get it. I sure didn't expect to have to train my T. I thought they were supposed to know how to act. Maybe I'm an outlier and what works for most people doesn't work for me and he's got to adjust. But I also need to know he can use his reaction to help me, then be able to shrug it off so it doesn't put us in a permanent negatively charged spiral downwards.
And I agree with you in respect to 'normal' people. I 'appeared' to be one of them for a long time. Nobody knew the emotional turmoil I was in. Not a soul. Except me. And I just didn't have time to deal with it until I cracked and was accompanied to a mental health facility.