Again, I agree her actions were deplorable. I have no rebuttal for that.
My concern is that we as a support community are sending her packing....

I am asking you to please help me understand this as my abandonment issues and thought processes are not comprehending and I fear that I could be left on a doorstep at any moment.
So, I guess it is my own insecurity that I am dealing with and asking someone to guide me.

I support Wi-Fighter and want to help her heal from this and even offered to help her get a dog. So, it was malicious and I understand that.
Help me, would you?