emptyspace: Sorry but you're wrong this time. I already have my T's approval. I wish she would agree that I look bad; she's always honest with me. If I send her the photos I hate, I would be upset if she didn't agree with me, at least to say they are unflattering. Then I can discuss why it bothers me so much to look that way. This issue is not about wanting something from my T. It's about my feelings about the way I look and not wanting to look like that!

I do agree with you that I am curious about why I judge others so unfavorably. I think it's a "first impression" kind of thing. When I get to know someone, their appearance doesn't matter anymore. I still think my T is too thin, but it doesn't affect me like it used to. But the way I judge people does bother me so it's worth discussing though it's hard to admit. I think it's something I want to explore. If Yalom can admit his reaction, so can I!

I don't know if I can respond to everyone. The replies are kind of sad, to know that so many of us think we're ugly in appearance. I'm glad I have a woman T; I could never talk about it with a man but I can tell my T anything. This thread gives me an incentive to do so. I started the subject in an email already.

I am starting to dislike Yalom more than I already do. A T shoudn't admit something like that. Reminds me of when my former dermatologist looked at me with an expression of disgust. I know it was there. I changed drs., not just for that reason, but I never forgot that look.