Hi Jake, Knowing your triggers is a good start. It takes a lot to control them I have found out. You have the right idea to emotionally withdraw. I don't agree not caring about the outcome of a confrontation is healthy. Especially if it you, one on one with another. One of the quotes I like best; "People may not remember what you said, but they will remember how you made them feel!" Disengage as much as you possibly can,
winning may not actually be a win in one upmanship.