You know what this situation kind of reminds me of - When I blasted the abuse that I was under by going public. The abusers threatened everything on earth and even those that were not involved rallied against me (no this part does not remind me of it but what happened next does)

When I went public I felt like I was to blame for all the fighting and so on. my head went through all kinds of what ifs and I should haves. But the bottom line was it was the abusers that did wrong. I come from a very large family but only a select few were abused. I tried to locate why the abuser got me what I do and so on. the truth was that it could have been any one of the family members or others outside the family that got hurt. I just happened to be the one that was the abusers release. Kind of like those of us that are self injurers we have our preferences of releases but when push comes to shove and that immediate release of retailiating against ourselves is needed we use what we have access to.

Nothing I did warrented my being abused. It was the abusers choice. sure when I blew the lid off of the abuse by exposing the situation and for a bit everyone was in an uproar - some against me and didn't believe me and others for me and my going public helped them to stand up for themselves, end their abuse being perpetrating on them and for as many family members that were against me there were just as many that my abuser got to.

My going public caused quite a stir but so many people were helped and because the abuse was out in the open everyone learned how to take care of themselves and that abuser could no longer find his victims so easily.

You did a wonderful thing her wi_fighter. You exposed an abuser. not only did you protect yourself from further abuse but the perpetrator can no longer abuse you, and cannot find her victims here.

Also for many of us here this is not our only on line therapy or support group. You know what that means - If this person is a member of any of those other communities thanks to you and your bravery we will be able to recognize the situation should she attempt to do the same there and know how to prevent her from making us her victims there too. Girl now all over the web you will probably be seeing posts saying hey guess what we had a situation on one of my on line support groups with out names this is what happened and this is how to not fall prey to this type of persons evil claws.

your bravery of exposing an abusers is saving not only the 9000 plus members here but will save millions around the world.


wi_fighter

Thank you so much for keeping this sight safe and abuse free.