Thanks for letting me know, Stopdog. I read ALL of your really long thread on 'quitting'. So much of it spoke to me. Particularly because I am very analytical (careers in Engineering then Finance) as you appear to be. I can't seem to get my head and heart in sync. One or the other takes over (usually my head) and the other is going "Huh?" Most of the time I feel horrible in therapy without even knowing why I feel horrible. Oh right, yes I do - because there's no progress, no perceivable structure (somebody here referred to Psychoanalysis as more structured than other forms of therapy and I had to pick my lower jaw off the floor after reading that!), it's all so airy fairy and I don't see any motivation on the part of my T to speed things up. I flip between feeling like 1) the magician doesn't want to give away his tricks and 2) thinking that maybe he's not able to apply the structure part of the process for some reason so has just resorted to 'winging' it. Anyway, after reading your thread, I have drawn up a list of questions for my T. I think writing them down plus his answers will ensure that I actually get an answer. <Now that just brought back a memory: I asked him what xxx experience in therapy meant and he said he had no idea. That really, really pissed me off. Then the issue BECAME "Why won't he just damn well answer the question?" Now you may point out that he did in fact answer my question, so either 1) I can't tolerate his answer or 2) I don't believe him and seem to feel he's withholding something from me or 3) both. Now I'm not so obsessed with what the experience meant, but I am totally obsessed with his evasiveness. OK, after just saying that, I know the problem is 3)both.

I hope you have made some progress since starting that thread.