Thanks Michael the Great and Lyzzyy. Today when I opened the door to take my dog out, there were 2 see through plastic bags at my door step. It was from this lady - they were home made gifts, like a fabric cover for those kleenex purse packets and potpourri sachets, with several notes. The one addressed to me read: I now feel my space has be invaded more. First I wasn't looking for an apology but just to clarify I know why she calls - for babysitting. Have you ever received an apology, with a 'but or just' with it....then its not really an apology. She's trying to say, all she wanted was for the girls to spend time ...when in reality its for her to get someone to babysit for a low cost. I'm not friends, just my daughter was friends when her daughter was going to my daughters school. She does this to 2 other mothers, so she doesn't have to pay for babysitting or daycare.

I feel this was an attempt to make me feel guilty. It would have been better to give us some space. When my daughter goes to her friends houses, we wait to be invited and then we let them tell us what time we should come and leave. There was a note for my older daughter, me and then one for me and my husband. All I know is this made it feel worse. I feel like she's trying to manipulate me.