It is good to be honest. If you can work or not is definately an issue. Be open as you can about it. Do you want someone that expects you to work? I know that it is so important to be able to support yourself in some way, but adding the stress of a relationship may be too much. Love is so good and important, but the heartache from not living up to another person's needs or expectations is hearbreaking. Could you take time apart for a while to see if you are really meant for each other? If she can't live without you, then you know she will be able to deal with anything that comes, even the work issue.