My foster daughter has just let the loser that is the father of her child move back in with her. Well, I just found out about it anyway. He showed up Christmas morning with the clothes on his back and not a dime in his pocket.

I KNOW that she's lonely. I know it is tough being a single mother. This guy has four children with four different women. My granddaughter is second in the birth order and she is 2 years old. He hasn't done a thing for my granddaughter in her short life. He walked out on my daughter when she was pregnant. He couldn't be bothered to show a bit of interest when my granddaughter was born pre-maturely.

I could forgive someone for dumping on me, I just could never get past someone dumping on my kids.

It makes me very sad. I do not understand how you can still be attracted to someone that has treated not only you so poorly, but your child as well. Maybe I'm just a cold hearted bee with an itch.

She's an excellent mother but this is a really bad decision. He's running from fines in the area that he lived in before. She says she's set up boundaries and if he goes back to his old habits she'll kick him out. She thinks he's changed. I say how much could he have changed if he took food out of his child's mouth by showing up without a thing to his name and expecting her to buy him clothes and cigarettes.

I think I showed a great deal of restraint. When I found out about it I told her I loved her and I understood why she was doing this, but reminded her that she is now teaching her daughter how a man should treat her and to tread carefully (he has been physically and emotionally abusive in the past). She was pretty relieved. My daughter, her best friend since Kindergarden (which is how Amy came to live with us to begin with) told Amy that she would not be a part of Amy's life as long as this loser is in it. I understand that decision (as does Amy) but the whole situation makes my heart hurt. And I want to rip that useless SOB's testicles off so he does not do this to a fourth woman.