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Claritytoo · Jan 07, 2012, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Miracle1986

My ex-T had helped me sign up for this (what we both thought would be a really helpful) resource for me called Valor Institute. It is an organization "dedicated to to serving clients (peers) who are healing from dissociative disorders of a traumatic origin." Valor does things like weekend outings, monthly luncheons, retreats, etc

I was so excited and happy! I was actually going to get to meet other people with DID in person! WooHoo!!!

Well, T helped me fill out all the paperwork and she faxed it to the head of Valor one day while I was in her office, because Valor is a recommendation-only thing. You have to have a T recommend/sign you up.

A few days later, I received my Valor welcome package in the mail. WooHoo!!

It gave me my details to log-on to their secure website and use the resources there (another feature Valor offers is online portals to client recommended services: doctors, lawyers, etc) So I went and logged in and made an introduction post in the little Welcome area. I told everyone that I was super excited to be apart of Valor and I couldn't wait to make new friends.

About maybe 3-4 days later, I got an email from T saying that she she received an email from the head of Valor and they that didn't feel like I was ready for the face-to-face and/or peer support that they had to offer and that my introduction post was unsettled to some members, and thus they had decided to terminate my membership.

I went back and read my introduction and it said that I didn't have a formal dx yet and that "I'm not sure I want one. I feel like it would be just another label, and who wants another label? Certainly not me!!!"

I didn't email T back to see if that is what was unsettling to some members, I was to hurt, but I can only assume that it was.

IF WE CAN'T QUESTION OUR DX WITH OTHER "PEERS" WHERE ELSE ARE WE SUPPOSED TO DO IT?!?! WHY IS IT SO WRONG TO QUESTION IT???? HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO JUST ACCEPT "OH THIS IS JUST HOW IT IS" AND NEVER HAVE DOUBTS EVER AGAIN?!?! WHAT THE HELL!!!!!!!!!

That was about 2 weeks ago and we all still feel hurt, pissed, depressed, sad, etc. IT'S NOT FAIR!!!! ALL WE WANT TO DO IS MEET OTHERS LIKE US IN PERSON/OFFLINE SO WE DON'T HAVE TO FEEL SO ALONE AND MISUNDERSTOOD WHEN WE ARE NOT ONLINE!!!! WHY IS THAT SO MUCH TO ASK FOR FOR!!!!!! Are we destined to be alone and misunderstood forever????

I have recently been doubting my dx because I don't think I have enough similar symptoms as what I have read on the computer or what I have read on this site. My "alters" don't have their own lives. They are part of me but they all have their own presentation and thoughts. Some of which I don't agree with. I recently became confused when one of my alters did know what music was. I couldn't understand how I know and she didn't. Someone on this site gave me some good insight. But I know that unless I fully believe that I have DID I will not be able to move forward. My guess is the folks at valor are looking for people who are at peace with their dx and are willing to go forward from there. I still don't think what they did was nice. They should have asked you what you thought of your dx and you would have told them in the beginning. I am sorry you are sad. But I am glad you are here with us.