Thanks Elana05, stumpy and Evis. If she calls again in the future, I'm going to say straight out "no I can't". I was never totally comfortable with the free movie, but then when she used to ask me for the play date I figured out it was payback time. Now that my girls are getting older they like to sleep in on day offs.

Where I live they built a new school for kindergarten up to grade 12. My oldest started her grade 9 here and her daughter transferred from my youngests elementary school to this new school. They had an open house in Sept., so me and the girls went. We saw her as she was going to leave and I said bye after briefly saying hi. Instead of her leaving, she followed us everywhere we went on the tour of the school.

I have a hard time being firm with people because I don't want to hurt their feelings. Most people would get the indirect hint, but for some reason she doesn't pick up on it. Often people will say no, but then offer a reason or say sorry - but I'm going to keep it simple.