Thanks to Doc John filling in the missing pieces to this situation I am no longer confused as to what happened and what I need to do to protect myself. But I am still shocked at myself. I am usually real great at seeing or noticing an abuser symptom, trait whatever you want to call it. When I was doing my public speaking engagements I could walk into a room and I could look around and then write on a piece of paper the number and who was most likely been abused and has abuser traits just by hearing the way the people are talking or standing, sitting and so on. and every time my friend and I would compare notes and after the engagement responses and I would hit the nail right on the hear every time.

rereading the threads and posts here all the clues, traits and so on were right out there plain as day and I missed it.

the realization that this could have been me in a heartbeat because some how I had let my guard down is right in front of my right now.

I know in time this feeling will lessen but thanks to this past weeks "lesson" about on line predators it will be a long time before I forget to protect myself.