Thanks for your input, also what I meant by not caring what the outcome is, is if I win or lose. I didn't mean I want to not care if me and my friend were arguing and we weren't friends any more or anything like that. also what do you mean triggers? like what gets me upset? if I do find out what my trigger's are how do I successfully use that knowledge to help me? also what you are saying is that I shouldn't take it personally.