After reading the above thread I know I stumbled onto this page after my search this morning "when an abusive parent dies" for all the right reasons.this morning my closest friend of almost 30 years called to say she is gone. His (adoptive since birth) mother, he is 44 years old, she was 82.

Over the last several days he has been with her at the Hospital, sometimes taking her verbal abuse, other times simply leaving. The Dr.s seeing everything first hand are completely understanding.

It has been the guilt that has eaten him.... I hated that women for what she did to him repeatedly for over 40 years but I also know that he is full of grief, he's finally unburdened, he is now free but he is also very very sad this morning.

If you could help us help you in these times as your friends, what would it be.

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