I WON'T continue to discuss the recent event.

IMO even if provoked, it isn't right to strike out at another, or cry wolf. Triggers are one thing, deliberate acting out is another, imo. That's for anyone/everyone, here, there, or everywhere.

Projection is a common problem with some disordered ppl.(Projection, in a simple explanation, is like accusing someone else of thinking/acting/saying exactly of what you are thinking/acting/saying, and the person you accuse really aren't doing that, only you.)

IDK about anyone else here, but I would think that if any member acted towards me one way in chat, another way in my threads, another way in their threads, and still another way in PMs, that something is askew with that member.

I think that that does happen, is why so many members won't accept PMs here... because, though we are all to be supportive in all venues, some members aren't when it comes to talking in PMs. What we need to give is more support to those who receive a negative PM so they will notify a mod that that has happened. People who prey on the unsuspecting, imo, look for those who seem weaker than they, and insecure, imo because it's assumed that they won't tell. The method that secrecy can be used is a problem for many members here, imo.