I'm still confused. What exactly happened? If I'm understanding right, one member (or more? And it was Sleeps?) attacked another (wi_fighter?) by revealing personal information from these boards to people the other knew, and somehow this prevented wi_fighter from getting a dog? Sorry, but there's so many posts, and I've got a lot to do, so it would be easier if someone would post the details in one post, or point me to such a post.

There's no guarantee of privacy. As I pointed out in another thread, it doesn't take much effort on Google and The Wayback Machine (and I'm sure other search engines) to find old posts.