Thanks for posting everyone. She isn't trying to directly pursuade be now, she is offerring me money if I attend. I feel sick to my stomach. She has been verbally and emotionally abusive to our mom, for as long as I can remember. My mother is desperate for a "normal" family, so she tolerates her verbal and emotional abuse. She justifies her abuse on her perceived trauma which resulted from my moms mental illness and mild substance abuse. Sometimes I wish I could move to another planet...I love my mom, despite our hardships. I think my sister needs to talk to a professional therapist.