My first thought is to point out there is a difference between someone who is transgender and someone who is transsexual. Someone who is transgender has a gender (between your ears) different to their sex (between their legs) but doesn't necessarily want to act on it. A transsexual person wants to, is, or has transitioned physically (although may drop the label once they have transitioned, believing it to no longer apply once their sex and gender match).

In other words, try not to panic. You don't have to change your body if you don't want to and that's ok. You don't even have to consider yourself a 'binary' gender/sex of male or female, but a combination of both if you want to.

As for your list, 1 is probably pretty common, 3 probably is as well, and 4 doesn't mean a thing- people put a lot of importance of stereotyping when they really shouldn't. Take pink- that's a stereotypical colour but has become widely used by homosexual men and I'm sure they feel perfectly male. Take purple- another stereotypical colour but it used to be an important status colour for Roman emperors. If you like it, have it.

I second Unhappy guy, only you can really answer that question. Deep inside yourself, what do you feel you are? Ignore whatever evidence you have to "confirm" your female-ness because it sounds to me like you are fishing for confirmation of something, and try to answer the question in your own gut. If you are a male who likes feminine things, then good for you. If you are, deep down, a woman, then I'm sure there are people who can help you work that out. If you feel you are androgynous (elements of both male and female) or some other non-binary combination that suits your gender more, then there are places to work through that too.

I hope you work yourself out soon