((((( granite ))))))

I am so happy that you had such a productive session with T and was able to hear and understand what the purpose was behind her not reading the letter....and for you to be able to start to read it to her...just WOW.

I totally understand the feeling of everything being jumbled up in my head when it comes to T....I also make a habit of fixating on one or two things...and then reading too much into it....ACK!

Also, as far as feeling shame, etc. about ourselves....one thing I have learned - although I still have to remind myself at times - is that when I share something that I feel is ugly about myself, T's reaction is usually WAY different than what I would expect. He is less focused on the content and more focused on what's happening between us in the room - and for me to share an intimate part of myself in that way helps him feel that we are more connected, that I trust him, that I was brave, etc.

((( HUGS )))