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I don't know if the abusers even know why they abuse. If they have been abused themselves, it can be some kind of effort to recover their own sense of empowerment.
I think it depends on how old they were when they were abused and what their abuse entailed. You have to keep in mind that in the case of sexual abuse often the abuser very carefully grooms his/her victim and presents it as something that can be secretively pleasurable.

I have thought a lot about this and I have been around a lot of children and children really are not aware of the real nature of sex like adults. I have seen so many children wear their clothes precariously somewhat exposing themselves and they don't truely even think of themselves in the physical private sense like adults do. Some children like to run around naked and half dressed and they honestly don't stand in front of a mirror and look at themselves in a sexual nature, they just don't have that kind of sense about themselves.

And look at the way teenagers dress, they are attention seeking with their appearance and they try to fit in or often, depending on what kind of attention they receive, and how their home environment is, they are only just beginning to think about appearance and gaining attention. Lets face it, sexuality is often a big mistery, known as something that provides a secret of pleasure in someway. Children DO become aware that their parents interact in some very secretive way and remember, children play copy cat by nature, and try to imatate their parents in many ways. But they don't know what everything truely means on an adult level.

If children are not educated about what they do discover themselves about their own bodies, children will naturally want to know if other children can experience the same things. If you really observe children, they are always trying to see what they can do, are constantly wondering and exploring and they DO want to see what other children can do as well, it is human nature and we all do that all our lives.

The reality about human beings is we are, by design, just like all other living things, born to reproduce. Only human beings think about it more than other living things.
If you really think about it, much of what we commercialize as commodities have some kind of tone that appeals to basic human instincts, survive, thrive, and reproduce as well as if you have this, you have power and some kind of happiness.

What kind of messages do we really trickle down to the innocent mind of a child?
Do we really think they are just going to ignore all the romance and pleasures that are somewhat suggestive? Most children are introduced to the Disney movies, how many of those movies have a kind of romance in them?

I honestly don't think many parents even talk to their children about what sexuality really means or pay attention to the fact that most children DO discover something that can happen in their own bodies. So, by parents not addressing that and talking about what it means and that it is private etc., children are left to wonder and may even explore or even worse, be abused in someway. Children can very easily be led by some kind of unknown that they don't really understand.

It isn't until much later on in life that when the real purpose of what everything really means, that many adults can look back in anger/shame/confusion about things that may have taken place in their childhood that they truely didnt understand. Even if a child is invaded by an older child or an adult that tricks and controls them somehow.
The real error is the fact that most parents do not really talk to their children about their bodies and instruct them on how to be careful and what is normal etc.

It is important to make sure that you truely forgive yourself for being innocent. You have to truely understand that things that may have happened to you were not truely understood the way they are thought of now. Also know that abuse takes place because there is too much ignorance and children simply do not understand what it really means. Unfortunately so many children are left out of the loop of being educated and told that if they have certain things happen to them, they can really tell no matter what an abuser may say or do or threaten.

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