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Originally Posted by stumpy
Also know that abuse takes place because there is too much ignorance and children simply do not understand what it really means
what?
abuse is never the child's fault. ever...regardless of that the child knows, feels , thinks, understands, etc...
are you implying that by this statement that abuse is abuse of the child is because of ignorance on the child's fault? because that is how i read this...
really? rape is rape, violation is violation..i think that even as a child..i knew that such by an adult hurt & was somehow wrong..
implying that it is the child's responsibility to know & report abuse in this equation is just ludicrous & irresponsible. look at the power equation...no child holds any power there..it is all in the adults hand...so how exactly is a child supposed to assume the responsibility is stopping the abuse?
yes they can report it if they are old enough & brave enough to do so..but if i read this quote & your post correctly (& i might be wrong) you imply that it is the child's job to know the abuse is wrong in the first place.
no..it is the adult's job...not the child. the adult failed here..not the child.
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NO, Stumpy, I am definitely not implying that the child is at fault at all, as they are simply not. We are on the same page here, the ignorance I speak of is that parents don't know enough to tell their children about what many things mean and they should make sure to speak up if they are ever victims. It is not just a stanger that can be an abuser, it could even be another child, children don't always understand this.
I myself, did not understand. I was abused by both my older siblings and too afraid to tell! I can look back now, know it was so wrong, so upsetting and I was so little, but I truely never felt that if I told I would then be safe. I simply didn't understand as a two and three year old what was going on, all I knew is I didn't like it.
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