Hey there,

You aren't alone. I read your other post too.

I'm in the same boat as you - I used to be comfortable being exposed to sex and nudity, but now I can't bear to be around it. I break down, feel self conscious and get depressed, anxious, upset... I feel horrible and defeated.

Things changed for me about two and a half years ago when my boyfriend and I watched an online porn clip together. I'll never forget the look on his face as he was lusting for a large breasted, attractive, blonde woman while I was sitting right next to him. I felt like he had cheated on me, and was disgusted that he could get off even viewing that sort of thing. After that he agreed to give up porn.

In the same way the media is defining what is beautiful (dangerously thin or GI Joe buff), porn is defining what is sexy (silicone boobs, tan and toned, pumped lips). Everyday women are in a battle with themselves, and that's partly why I'm so upset when I see sexy stereotypes – an ordinary woman will often feel out-matched in attractiveness.

For myself, I have decided that sex and nudity is something to be embraced between a couple in a loving relationship, and to let other people watch a sexual encounter is to take away from the intimacy of this couple. This degradation of the couple's intimacy is another root of my disposition.

I have the same problem as you do with movies, but I have some advice for you. Look up any movie you are considering watching on IMDb.com. The website contains a "Parents Guide" link where you can view content advisory which includes a "sex and nudity" review. This helps me sensor my movie selections so I don't have to anxiously watch a PG-13 or R.

I hope this helps.