I've tried a few female t's in the past and absolutely couldn't stand any of them. They wanted to pity me and coddle me and tell me how much they related to me because of their own abuse which just entirely creeped me out. Yuck.

I have had three male t's, all very, very skilled. They have always been direct (and sometimes downright blunt -- that's a good thing in my book). They have been very straight-forward and honest. They have been highly respectful and compassionate. I've never had transference issues or ruptures with any of them. I have always found talking to men much easier than women. With a couple of noteable exceptions, I have just found men much more straight-forward and no-nonsense. That's important to me.

Now that I think about it, all of my care providers are men: psychiatrists, family doctors, OB/GYN's, dentist, even my eye doctor.

Interesting how we all have our personal preferences.