I knew from the start I wanted to work with a male therapist. I dont get along well with other females. I tried two older therapist first but it never went passed three sessions. My T now is younger, and I finally feel comfortable enough to talk and stick with therapy. I have a lot of abandonment issues, with people I thought would always be there. I almost knew he would spark those issues, and he did. But now I can work on them, so I see it a a positive thing.