The T's gender was definitely a factor when I chose my T. I am glad that I'm working with a female T. I'm not sure I'd have made as much progress with a male T. I have severe trust issues as it is, and it took me two years to really trust my T...if I'd also added in the gender factor, I'd probably still be working on trust.

I don't distrust ALL men, and this isn't something I feel I need to work on in therapy right now. I've had successful relationships in the past, and I've dated, and it's fine. I just would have had to find the "right" male T if I'd gone that route...for me, it would have been more intimidating, and I have some history with not being able to trust men that I feel are in more of an authority position. It was simply easier and quicker for me to make progress with a female T. Maybe, someday, it will be something for me to explore, but right now, the issues I'm working on are more important.