I definitely wanted a male T. My issues are largely with my mother, and honestly, I have had so many bad relationships with other women (drama, abandonment, judging, lies and talking about people behind their backs), and a bad experience with a female T, that I cannot imagine that I would have been able to really open up to a female T.

I still think it's really interesting that a relationship with a man has helped me so dramatically in my relationships with other women. Part of that, I know, is that I'm healthier and choosing the RIGHT women with which to have relationships.