When first searching for a T, I knew I would prefer a male T, but I was somewhat open. I have a fairly terrible relationship with my mother, and after working with my T, I realized that I really needed a male T at this point in time.

I also wanted someone older than me, and that's worked well so far, too. I am experiencing some pretty painful transference, but I consider it a side effect of a relationship that is otherwise helpful and high-functioning.