I feel like I'm listening to by brothers dopleganger! Good greif! My brother berated me every minute he can. I only see him twice a year because he's in Ohio and I'm in Delaware. He tries to call but it always ends up in a sceaming match. He can't wrap his head around either my anorexia ( which I've had for 31 years) or my bipolar. He thinks I'm a deluded, selfish, self- serving B. He doesn't accept mental illness as an excuse and says I do it for attention and if I wanted to I could control it. I've has to spend my life in his shadow as well and he too is my younger brother! His stories and life has always been priority 1. Funny all my cousins have a nickname for him " the golden boy " bc in my families views the sun has always risen and set on his head. I advised him if were going to have any relationship were going to agree to disagree. I hope this was helpful. Peace and goodwill.