I have never wanted to confront the person. I think in the best-case scenario, anything he said would be woefully inadequate--like, an apology doesn't nearly begin to cover it, nothing he said or did would really show me that he understands teh damage that he has done to me. And in the worst-case scenario he would deny the abuse and accuse me of being crazy. I got enough of that during the abuse!

The person is also very different now, many years later. I don't trust or like to be around him, but I do accept that he's different. The person I want to come to some kind of peace with is the abuser from back then who lives in my head. So I'm using therapy as a place to get angry, sad, etc. so that I can confront the him that still torments me. If that makes sense.