Yep, smells like transference to me And the fact that you're recognizing it is encouraging - it means you're making progress!

I think 2or3things explains it very well, certainly better than I could. Another example might be a parent who was inconsistent with love & affection, who could give love but withdraw it at any time for numerous reasons. If this patient experienced transference with the T, they would react to the T as they had with the parent. So they would be expecting rejection at any time, no matter if the T was positively angelic and very warm and loving. With transference, reality becomes perception. We are looking so hard for the expected response that we may see it when it isn't actually there. Or in your case, you were confused because you didn't get the expected response. It made no sense to you - that's not the way things are supposed to work! So it can be extremely uncomfortable because we don't know how to behave - the T is not following the script in our minds.

As I wrote above, 2or3 things said it better, but I hope this helps