Good heavens, don't be embarrassed!!! It happens, it's common, and it's normal, and it can be very useful in therapy. It sounds like you have a good T, so I'm sure she knows that's what it is. Don't worry if she doesn't use the word "transference". My T rarely uses the word itself, even though I'm waist-deep in transference stuff right now. We work on the issues that come to light, not the transference itself. That's not the problem. Just keep showing up for sessions!