Yes its transference, but the difference is deep down you know T isn't going to be judgemental but you need her to know how awful it felt when someone in the past was. we dont always have the words to put to these past experiences so I tend to re-enact them out sometimes attacking T and not realising at the time I am trying to put my pain into her and want her to act it in a judgemental and angry way so I am free of the inner conflict but she allows me to have the anger/fear etc and processes it with me in a new and healthier way so it changes within me.